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		<title>By: Jennifer Mattern</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jennifer Mattern</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 13 Jan 2010 16:25:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>If anyone decided to make a mountain out of a molehill, it was actually James. She made a conscious and strategic decision to announce the &quot;news&quot; not on her own blog to the target audience that should have mattered, but in a significantly bigger outlet (something you don&#039;t do unless you&#039;re looking for attention). 

And while the initial announcement might not have been intended as a broad statement about sexism, comments she made after that announcement have been indeed. The Newsweek article linked above in the post is an example, where James very directly blames former lack of success squarely on sexism rather than taking personal responsibility.

Also keep in mind that when James was pretending to be a man, she penned several blog posts that were downright sexist themselves. One of the biggest issues in this situation wasn&#039;t that James felt discriminated against, but that she acted like a complete hypocrite in the process of trying to overcome how she felt she was being treated (why it&#039;s laughable when I see women commenting here about sisterhood, in defense of a female who demeaned women in a much broader stroke).</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If anyone decided to make a mountain out of a molehill, it was actually James. She made a conscious and strategic decision to announce the &#8220;news&#8221; not on her own blog to the target audience that should have mattered, but in a significantly bigger outlet (something you don&#8217;t do unless you&#8217;re looking for attention). </p>
<p>And while the initial announcement might not have been intended as a broad statement about sexism, comments she made after that announcement have been indeed. The Newsweek article linked above in the post is an example, where James very directly blames former lack of success squarely on sexism rather than taking personal responsibility.</p>
<p>Also keep in mind that when James was pretending to be a man, she penned several blog posts that were downright sexist themselves. One of the biggest issues in this situation wasn&#8217;t that James felt discriminated against, but that she acted like a complete hypocrite in the process of trying to overcome how she felt she was being treated (why it&#8217;s laughable when I see women commenting here about sisterhood, in defense of a female who demeaned women in a much broader stroke).</p>
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		<title>By: Deb D</title>
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		<dc:creator>Deb D</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 07 Jan 2010 15:01:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I think the article is making a mountain out of a mole hill. What James did is not, and was not intended to be a broad (no pun intended) statement about sexism. Simply put, James was struggling in business and wondered if things would be different if she were a man. Who among us women has not wondered that at least once? 

That said, I&#039;d bet money that James&#039; performance was different as a man than as a woman... but not necessarily better. 

Finally, as the child of a single mother who works/ed in a heavily male-dominated environment, and works her ass off, and is spectacular at what she does... my mom knows for a fact that she has frequently been paid quite a bit less than her male counterPARTS (pun intended). So if James found a way around that kind of bull----, more power to her. If she was a man, no one would be judging her. Oh wait... isn&#039;t that how all this started? ;)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think the article is making a mountain out of a mole hill. What James did is not, and was not intended to be a broad (no pun intended) statement about sexism. Simply put, James was struggling in business and wondered if things would be different if she were a man. Who among us women has not wondered that at least once? </p>
<p>That said, I&#8217;d bet money that James&#8217; performance was different as a man than as a woman&#8230; but not necessarily better. </p>
<p>Finally, as the child of a single mother who works/ed in a heavily male-dominated environment, and works her ass off, and is spectacular at what she does&#8230; my mom knows for a fact that she has frequently been paid quite a bit less than her male counterPARTS (pun intended). So if James found a way around that kind of bull&#8212;-, more power to her. If she was a man, no one would be judging her. Oh wait&#8230; isn&#8217;t that how all this started? <img src='http://www.dirjournal.com/business-journal/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: Ann&#124; link building service</title>
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		<dc:creator>Ann&#124; link building service</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 05 Jan 2010 09:03:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Sad how women feel the need to tear down other women for their choices. Still.

I disagree completely with most of this article.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Sad how women feel the need to tear down other women for their choices. Still.</p>
<p>I disagree completely with most of this article.</p>
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		<title>By: Robin</title>
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		<dc:creator>Robin</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 30 Dec 2009 08:46:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wow! The whinging never stops. It began in the 1970s with a vengeance and continues today. You find it in every area of life. Not enough women in academe, the military, the sciences, the police, the fire dept, the senate, the movie business, medicine, engineering, physics, sports, computing, leadership roles, etc., ad infinitum.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wow! The whinging never stops. It began in the 1970s with a vengeance and continues today. You find it in every area of life. Not enough women in academe, the military, the sciences, the police, the fire dept, the senate, the movie business, medicine, engineering, physics, sports, computing, leadership roles, etc., ad infinitum.</p>
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		<title>By: Fran</title>
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		<dc:creator>Fran</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 28 Dec 2009 20:13:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>The one thing I have learned is to walk, talk, learn, hear, see and be the truth. The truth of who you are. 
Fran</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The one thing I have learned is to walk, talk, learn, hear, see and be the truth. The truth of who you are.<br />
Fran</p>
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		<title>By: Patricia Skinner</title>
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		<dc:creator>Patricia Skinner</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Dec 2009 04:02:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I agree with you Jenn: success has little to do with hiding behind a male image, but rather is probably the result of a marketing re-think. I&#039;m also tired of women whining about gender bias. If it does exist the thing to do is prove your worth--not whine. I&#039;m sure I&#039;ll get flack for it but in my (techie) niche I&#039;ve never noticed gender bias.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I agree with you Jenn: success has little to do with hiding behind a male image, but rather is probably the result of a marketing re-think. I&#8217;m also tired of women whining about gender bias. If it does exist the thing to do is prove your worth&#8211;not whine. I&#8217;m sure I&#8217;ll get flack for it but in my (techie) niche I&#8217;ve never noticed gender bias.</p>
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		<title>By: Jenn Mattern</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jenn Mattern</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Dec 2009 06:03:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&quot;On the other hand, if she had just changed her writing voice &amp; branding style and not her name, she probably would have experienced similar success.&quot;

I think that&#039;s key. You can certainly be a successful female freelance writer. There are plenty of them out there earning six figure incomes, writing for nationally-known publications, etc. (just two possible measures of &quot;success&quot; based on different areas of freelancing). So marketing yourself while using a woman&#039;s name in no way means you can&#039;t succeed. I just find it sad that James&#039; choice to sport a new gender seems to have so many people forgetting that (not here so far, but elsewhere it&#039;s fascinating how many people are willing to jump on the &quot;I was born with a vagina, so woe is me&quot; train rather than looking at their circumstances as individuals -- including how they present themselves, market themselves, and frankly feel about themselves on the professional front.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;On the other hand, if she had just changed her writing voice &amp; branding style and not her name, she probably would have experienced similar success.&#8221;</p>
<p>I think that&#8217;s key. You can certainly be a successful female freelance writer. There are plenty of them out there earning six figure incomes, writing for nationally-known publications, etc. (just two possible measures of &#8220;success&#8221; based on different areas of freelancing). So marketing yourself while using a woman&#8217;s name in no way means you can&#8217;t succeed. I just find it sad that James&#8217; choice to sport a new gender seems to have so many people forgetting that (not here so far, but elsewhere it&#8217;s fascinating how many people are willing to jump on the &#8220;I was born with a vagina, so woe is me&#8221; train rather than looking at their circumstances as individuals &#8212; including how they present themselves, market themselves, and frankly feel about themselves on the professional front.</p>
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		<title>By: Tim Stianes</title>
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		<dc:creator>Tim Stianes</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Dec 2009 04:46:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Jenn - Interesting take. I don&#039;t know the full story and don&#039;t have time to read up on it, but I feel like Men With Pens was an easy way/experiment for &#039;James&#039; to &#039;prove&#039; her point to herself and any others willing to use it as &#039;proof&#039; of gender bias. Unfortunately, the experiment was unscientific since, as you pointed out, she changed her whole brand and voice. If all she had done was change her name to a male name and kept her writing voice &amp; branding style in tact, I doubt she would have had the same result. On the other hand, if she had just changed her writing voice &amp; branding style and not her name, she probably would have experienced similar success. 

That&#039;s the catch. Know your audience and market to your audience . . . if your audience is a bunch of men, don&#039;t write like a self-pitying, gender bias claiming female, it&#039;s not going to sell. 

Lillie - Great story, I hope you are sharing it with the web community. We need more people like you in the world.

Callie - Lame comment. I&#039;m sure there is a gender bias (due to men preferring writing/branding with a certain voice/style), just like I&#039;m sure there is a Good Ole Boys network. Neither is a good thing if you&#039;re not a part of the benefiting group. 

Ever think maybe &#039;James&#039; just did a better job of selling to his market than &#039;Jamesette&quot; ever did? That&#039;s what it looks like to me. 

Don&#039;t get me started on why my brilliant wife refuses to charge her clients more . . . I&#039;m sure it&#039;s just gender bias driving down her compensation.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Jenn &#8211; Interesting take. I don&#8217;t know the full story and don&#8217;t have time to read up on it, but I feel like Men With Pens was an easy way/experiment for &#8216;James&#8217; to &#8216;prove&#8217; her point to herself and any others willing to use it as &#8216;proof&#8217; of gender bias. Unfortunately, the experiment was unscientific since, as you pointed out, she changed her whole brand and voice. If all she had done was change her name to a male name and kept her writing voice &amp; branding style in tact, I doubt she would have had the same result. On the other hand, if she had just changed her writing voice &amp; branding style and not her name, she probably would have experienced similar success. </p>
<p>That&#8217;s the catch. Know your audience and market to your audience . . . if your audience is a bunch of men, don&#8217;t write like a self-pitying, gender bias claiming female, it&#8217;s not going to sell. </p>
<p>Lillie &#8211; Great story, I hope you are sharing it with the web community. We need more people like you in the world.</p>
<p>Callie &#8211; Lame comment. I&#8217;m sure there is a gender bias (due to men preferring writing/branding with a certain voice/style), just like I&#8217;m sure there is a Good Ole Boys network. Neither is a good thing if you&#8217;re not a part of the benefiting group. </p>
<p>Ever think maybe &#8216;James&#8217; just did a better job of selling to his market than &#8216;Jamesette&#8221; ever did? That&#8217;s what it looks like to me. </p>
<p>Don&#8217;t get me started on why my brilliant wife refuses to charge her clients more . . . I&#8217;m sure it&#8217;s just gender bias driving down her compensation.</p>
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		<title>By: Jenn Mattern</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jenn Mattern</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Dec 2009 04:26:13 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Tom - Then again, that&#039;s why we have laws about truth in advertising. The issue I have isn&#039;t that she chose to market herself using the pseudonym. It&#039;s the way the &quot;coming out&quot; is painting the picture of women as victims in a field where they have more opportunity to succeed than most. I&#039;m sick and tired of seeing people make excuses for their shortcomings in business, but what&#039;s infinitely worse when they then put those issues on an entire group of people, essentially belittling the success of the MANY women who have succeeded in the field before her. And marketing aside, there&#039;s never an okay time to lie to your audience or clients, especially when it involves telling them to do A (be transparent) while you proceed to do B (lie to them). That&#039;s just how I see it. I don&#039;t see it as a simple case of real world marketing -- there&#039;s very little &quot;real&quot; about the entire situation unfortunately.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Tom &#8211; Then again, that&#8217;s why we have laws about truth in advertising. The issue I have isn&#8217;t that she chose to market herself using the pseudonym. It&#8217;s the way the &#8220;coming out&#8221; is painting the picture of women as victims in a field where they have more opportunity to succeed than most. I&#8217;m sick and tired of seeing people make excuses for their shortcomings in business, but what&#8217;s infinitely worse when they then put those issues on an entire group of people, essentially belittling the success of the MANY women who have succeeded in the field before her. And marketing aside, there&#8217;s never an okay time to lie to your audience or clients, especially when it involves telling them to do A (be transparent) while you proceed to do B (lie to them). That&#8217;s just how I see it. I don&#8217;t see it as a simple case of real world marketing &#8212; there&#8217;s very little &#8220;real&#8221; about the entire situation unfortunately.</p>
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		<title>By: Tom Salzer</title>
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		<dc:creator>Tom Salzer</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Dec 2009 03:05:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I respect your opinion. I respect your right to publicize your opinion. And I&#039;m glad you posted. I happen to disagree with your perspective, because I view the situation as practical marketing to overcome a barrier that was limiting success. If what James did was a lie, then every ad for whiter teeth and fresher breath and shoes that make you more desirable must also be lies...yet we tolerate them, and even reward them. I see very little difference: it&#039;s marketing in a free market society. Unpalatable? Sometimes. Real world? Yup.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I respect your opinion. I respect your right to publicize your opinion. And I&#8217;m glad you posted. I happen to disagree with your perspective, because I view the situation as practical marketing to overcome a barrier that was limiting success. If what James did was a lie, then every ad for whiter teeth and fresher breath and shoes that make you more desirable must also be lies&#8230;yet we tolerate them, and even reward them. I see very little difference: it&#8217;s marketing in a free market society. Unpalatable? Sometimes. Real world? Yup.</p>
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