Comments on: Space – This Time, It’s Personal

By: Zeuoes

Zeuoes — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 03:45:55 +0000

we were at a party
his ear lobe fell in the deep
someone reached in and grabbed it
it was a rock lobster!

rock lobster!

we were at the beach
everybody had matching towels
somebody went under a dock
and there they saw a rock
it wasn’t a rock
it was a rock….lobster!

rock lobster!
rock lobster!
rock lobster!

rock lobster!!

By: Benazir

Benazir — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 14:35:38 +0000

I still feel a deep sort of resentment when my “space” is intruded upon. But I try to get over it fast by remembering something that Benjamin Franklin said, “What begins in anger , ends up in shame.”

By: Matt Willard

Matt Willard — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 13:36:19 +0000

@some random dude: Yes, some people are completely comfortable with their personal space. But even if you are, have you ever been in a situation where someone puts their face very close to yours and keeps moving in? Or they keep inching closer during a conversation? That makes a lot of people, even confident ones, back off.

And while I have deliberately done the things I’ve mentioned in the article, I’ve seen other people do it too. Perhaps subconciously. I imagine many people who sling their stuff onto a table don’t even think about the implications. But all the same, others see that and think, “Is there another table I can use instead?”

By: some random crazy chick

some random crazy chick — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 10:01:12 +0000

I very much enjoyed the article.

Some random dude is an obvious trolling douche. or a troll who douches? Either way is correct.

To some random dude, I politely ask you to crawl back under your rock because when you open your mouth, sh*t spews out, no one likes sh*t…. no one likes you random dude. stop wasting air!

Was that polite enough? And since I asked politely, you will go away now? Forever? Please? Because with less people like you… well… in everyway the world would be a better place.

This article was a pleasant encounter and you ruined it random dude, not the blogger of the article or the article itself but you! And YOU need to seek professional help for your deep ugly insecurities that make you a bitter, useless and hateful person with absolutely nothing of worth to offer in your pathetic existence.

Happy Holidays everyone

By: some random dude

some random dude — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 00:28:45 +0000

you guys are freaking crazy. when someone is close to you… well he’s close to you… and that’s it.. and no the other dude does not feel the pressure rise and such.. only you feel that… why ?? because you are freaking crazy, when I sit at a table.. I don’t try to “OWN” the table.. it’s ppl like you that create frustration in our society. you write this article thinking everyone does these crazy habits of yours… but we don’t. normal ppl just accept to be in society, live with others and share space. You can’t live with this ?? well go see a doc and ask him for strong medicine.. with less people like you there might just be more pleasant encounters when we’re in public..

oh and if someone is to close to you in a line at a store… just tell him to back off.. don’t put up a show that is going on entirely in your head.. just ask politely and the dude will back off… unless he’s a crazy fu*ktard like you…

By: Shilka

Shilka — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 02:44:23 +0000

This article feels like reading about myself. People never avoid contact with me – they like to stand close, sit next to me on the bus, browse the shelves of the store with me… Being a former geek and a social outcast, I prefer my comfort zone – so I grow angry and aggressive – shove my elbows into ribs of others if I have to, bulge my way with my purse held as a shield . I take my personal space far more literally – if someone plays loud music that leaks into my space, I am the first to call the police to file complain.

What to do… *sigh*

By: Ali S.

Ali S. — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 17:59:59 +0000

I have always found that my shyness and awkwardness have always made me go out of my way to avoid confrontations – actual or made up in my head – or situations that I’m not in full control of my personal space which is about 2-3 feet. However, once I got into University I learned that one must stake their territory like an animal…I’m not talking about peeing on the nearest tree. No, what I mean is think like a caveman, a warrior, a soldier…the one most likely to survive and pass on their genes. Stake that spot your standing on and don’t budge…don’t be a jerk about it…but if that guy who waltz’s over and hovers around you and your personal space make sure you make it obvious you’re not happy with him being there but being determined and confident. I have found time and time again this has worked. I don’t feel self-conscious anymore nor do I feel like I should go out of MY way to rectify the situation. Remember, claim your space as your own.