6 Things to Remember When You Feel Down

No one promised every day would be a bed of roses. The next time you feel down about life, remember these six things.

1. Perfection is a pipe dream.

“Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.”  ― Salvador Dalí

It’s good to reach for the stars, but don’t let your happiness hinge on achieving a goal or ambition. If you fall short, your sense of self will crumble to pieces. Accept the reality that some plans are not meant to be. This attitude will provide you with the guts to try again… and again… and again…

2. Patience is a game changer.

“Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.”  ― A.A. Milne

There is no such thing as “overnight success.” Glamorized stories in books and movies might make you think otherwise, but successful people put in hours and hours of grunt work behind the scenes. They leave that part out, because it would be sad to watch somebody fail a hundred times in a row (even though most famous folks did before anybody heard of them).

3. Struggles make you stronger.

“Never throughout history has a man who lived a life of ease left a name worth remembering.” ― Theodore Roosevelt

Suffering gets a bad rap. It shouldn’t. How else would you develop mental strength or an ability to persevere despite adversity? Without the occasional struggle, you’d become a delicate flower who would wilt when presented with minor setbacks or challenges. Bad times provide you with enough context to appreciate good times. Sadness is the spice that gives happiness its flavor.

4. Failing isn’t really a big deal.

“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” ― Winston S. Churchill

So what if your business fails? You won’t die. Your pets, friends, and family won’t abandon you. The Earth will continue to spin. The seasons will carry on as if nothing happened. Failing isn’t a big deal to anybody or anything except your ego. Any stress or anxiety you experience related to business is 100% self-inflicted. Your mind is a really good liar. Try not to let it psych you out. Grow perspective. Everything will be okay.

5. Burying feelings isn’t helpful.

“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.” ― Sigmund Freud

Crying isn’t a sign of weakness. This is the human body’s way of releasing tension or upset feelings related to a situation. There’s nothing “macho” about concealing the way you feel. Repressing a negative feeling will cause it to grow like a cancerous tumor. You might not realize it at first, but this negativity will influence the way you do business and interact with people. The sooner you accept and deal with an emotion, the better.

6. Worrying solves nothing.

“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” ― Dalai Lama XIV

Remember this mantra: It is better to respond than react. Reactions are the anxious thoughts that hijack your brain when you lose a client, get stuck in traffic, misplace an item, or (insert your problem here). They do nothing to resolve the situation. They only make it seem bigger in your head. Responses are the actions you take to make things better in the here and now. They snap your mind out of the past and back into the present moment.

This philosophy is simple yet profound. Applying it could change your life. Let me demonstrate how it works. If you lose a client, why worry about it? No amount of wishing will solve anything. Yes, you should make an effort to understand why they left, because then you’ll be able to do better in the future. Beyond that? Forget about it.  Don’t react. Respond. You have two choices: A) Convince your ex-client they made a terrible mistake or B) Find a new client. Simple as that.

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Written by
Daniel Wallen